Tantric Insight Questionnaire

"An intimate relationship is a marriage of inner lives,
not so much what you think in an obvious sense but
rather the sub-structures of mental habits and attitudes,
which give birth to those thoughts and feelings."

Christopher Michaels

Questions are a great way to learn, to state the obvious. There are different ways they teach us. In the usual way the questioner gathers information on the subject being asked about. The less obvious way, if not equally important, then more important. When you are asked a question your mind is focused in particular, possibly new, directions in order to answer. If the questions are well directed the answerer may learn more than the questioner. This is why essays and assignments maybe more important in schools than lectures. The essence of science is the well asked question. This is as true of the mystery journey, as it is of therapy and management (in both business and public service). Of course the secondary questions, those sparked by the answers to the first questions asked, are of central importance too.

The warrior's way of asking is to use questions as traps, in order to close down the possible answers. She or he is looking for a particular answer, so as to fulfil his or her expectations or in order to teach a particularly focused lesson. This latter is one of the best aspects of the warrior's teaching approach. Later, in another part of the site, we will look at these in more detail. The lover asks open questions, which can allow free flowing dialogue, but can be loose and lack direction. Together the two make for the better approach to learning.

This questionnaire can offer us information about you, if you decide to share it with us, but is actually targeted at giving you information about us, what are we offering and in what way we focus. More importantly, hopefully, it will give you insight into yourself, Tantra and, if you use it as suggested below, your friends and lovers.The first chakra represents the entry, the first impression, the guardian at the edge of the self.

Using This Questionnaire

The best way to use this questionnaire is first and foremost to answer the questions honestly, then to ask your friends and lovers to answer it too. When you all get your responses and ratings then discuss your answers and results together. The areas of discussion are firstly, do they perceive you in the same way you see yourself, and vice versa. Do you agree with the ideas we have suggested need considering in our report on your answers. Our friends often see us quiet differently to the way we are aware of ourselves. They sometimes see through our blind spots, and us through theirs.

Even if you disagree with our ideas and observations exploring them, arguing with them, going behind what the questions are asking to the concepts and consequences is the exciting part.

  1. In what kind of situation did you last feel violated, betrayed or let down?

  2. Someone close to you changed, or behaved in an unexpected way.
    Someone lied to you.
    Someone spoke to you in an inappropriate way, for example underestimating you, being condescending, using sexual innuendo.
    You were physically invaded, intimidated or attacked.

  3. How did you handle the situation?

  4. How often, in daily life, do you feel violated? (No matter how you respond to the situations.)
    Every week.
    Once a month.
    Very rarely.

  5. When you “know” you’re right, and someone disagrees with you, are you:

  6. Intolerant of other opinions, and unwilling to say when you turn out to be wrong.
    Think they are unintelligent and/or crazy (at least in the moments of the discussion).
    Enjoy other opinions seeing them as different and worth listening to for what they might add to your own understandings.

  7. When involved in arguments can you maintain respect for the other person?

  8. Yes

  9. Is there any particular group, or groups, of people you prefer not to have in your presence?
  10. Yes

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  11. Can you be friends with people you have profound political, religious or philosophical disagreements?

  12. Yes No

  13. Meeting people who are from very different lifestyles, race, cultural backgrounds, points of views, political stances and/or religious traditions is:

  14. Which categories of emotions most upset your internal balance? (you can choose more than one)

  15. In what way is your balance upset: (You can choose more than one)

  16. You lose a sense of your life purpose.
    You behave in a way that goes against your moral values, eg disrespecting people, obsessive behaviours, etc.
    You let your everyday life change in ways that leaves you feeling helpless.
    Thoughts and feelings about the situation occupy your mind to the exclusion of all other thoughts.

  17. Do you think that people you disagree with have a right to speak their minds?

  18. Yes    No

  19. In which relationships are you able to resolve conflict via creative lateral thinking and negotiation so that all parties have a sense of satisfaction:

  20. In your personal life, including friendship as well as relationships.
    In your community life, eg in the clubs and charities you participate in.
    In your professional life
    In all of these areas
    In no part of your life
    Conflict is good and should be encouraged as a source of growth and dynamism.
  21. What is the greatest aphrodisiac?

  22. The brain.
    Viagra and related chemistry.
    Herbal mixtures.

  23. Men can have orgasm without ejaculation.
  24. True   False.

  25. Can you experience an intense emotion and not act on it, without losing the intensity?
  26. Yes   No

  27. How do you feel about death?

  28. It’s a transformation to a new, and better, life.
    The afterlife depends on your behaviour in this life.
    It’s the end of everything, dust to dust, energy to energy and nothing more.
    It’s not real, an illusion created to disempower us.
    Too scary to think about.

  29. Under what circumstances do you consider it is reasonable to kill?

  30. Never under any circumstances, not even for animals for food.
    For your own survival, animals for food but never humans.
    For your own survival, including humans.
    To protect those you love.
    As part of justice for criminals. For which crimes?
    The chakras are both state of mind as well as anatomic parts.
  31. Define violence?
  32. (in 50words or less)

    Can it be non-physical?
    Yes No, physical danger has to be involved.
    If so, what form does this violence take?

    Are there times when violence is acceptable? Yes No, by definition it is never acceptable.

    If yes, under what circumstances?

  33. All people deserve respect, regardless of what they do, even when you disagree with them or they've hurt you in someway.
  34. Agree Disagree

    People must earn respect.Agree Disagree
    People are basically untrustworthy. Agree Disagree
    All people are born good, it's life that teaches them to be bad. Agree Disagree
    People are basically lazy, and need to be pushed to do the right thing. Agree Disagree

  35. The world of the senses is just one realm among many. Agree Disagree
  36. If agreed, how many realms are there? (Insert the number)
    How many are evil? (Insert number)
    How many are good? (Insert number)

  37. Talking about your feelings is:

  38. Easy.
    Need to know basis
    They are no one else's business.
    Only do it with people I'm intimate with.

  39. Which sense is primary when you think?
  40. Sight. Hearing. Feeling. Don't Know.

  41. In different situations do different senses predominate in your thinking process?

  42. Yes No Haven't thought about it, Don't think its important.

  43. Which activities do you use to forget your problems:

  44. Drugs
    Conflict - arguing or fighting
    Physical exercise
    Don't believe in avoiding or forgetting my problems

  45. How do you respond to people who disagree with you?
  46. You enjoy a good argument.
    You hate it.
    You get defensive and must convince them your point of view is the right one.
    You appear to listen without challenging them, nod and make appropriate sounds, but are really ignoring them.
    Continually interrupt at each point you disagree with.
    Continually interrupting not giving them a chance to express the points they are making.
    Allow them to talk without interruption then challenge them on points you disagree with.

  47. Choose the statement which comes closest to your feelings.

  48. I have no doubt about what is right and what is wrong.
    I'm never quiet sure what is right or wrong.
    There are many things I'm sure about but there are many thing which are too complicated to make easy decisions about.
    What seems right or wrong in one situation may turn out to the opposite in another, or have opposite effects over time.

  49. Your religion or spiritual approach/beliefs affect:

  50. Every decision you make in daily life.
    Is central to your lifestyle.
    It helps you when you feel confused, helpless and/or need to make big decisions.
    You feel religious and/or spiritual beliefs are important but you don't think of them much.
    Religion and spiritual systems are illusions of no relevance to my life, and I see them as destructive.


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